I don't know if I've mentioned this before to you or not but my family does not have a tree it's more a bush.

 

I was away from my father and my brothers for 12 years. (Family drama crap!) 

They were never far from my mind, always in my heart and continued to be in my prayers.

 

Sometimes it's very difficult to explain to outsiders who I am.   It is hard that they don't know me. I don't blame my brothers obviously they were young children.  And I don't blame my dad either as he was hurting.  But it doesn't make it easy on me today.  But it's what I must do and will continue to do.

 

I've been working on finding that dog a home.  My baby bro said hey, I talked to my friends dad and he's more than interested.  Call him.  O.K. So I call him say I'm baby bro's sister and the guy pauses.  We continue to talk about dog and the situation with the dog and I told him I would talk with him in a day or two. 

 

So last night I call the man back and said hello it's baby brothers sister.  He pauses and I hear a woman in the back ground say... ASK HER!   hmmmmmm......................

So he says:   You know I've known baby brother and his family for all of his life  and my wife and I know his only sister whom happens to be an in law and her name is not the same as what you are saying yours is so who are you?  And why do you claim to be his sister.   

 

Now this is not the first time this has happened and these words have been said to me.  It crushes me.  My friends and family all knew about my brothers and that I have four of them and their names and ages because I've always talked about them even when we weren't able to be together.   I celebrated their birthdays for goodness sake even though they weren't with me.  It was a way for my heart to be there with them.  It took my hubby years to understand why I did this.  I don't think he ever truly understood until he saw me with them.   I never told the brothers this as I didn't want hurt in their hearts.  Hubby told them about a year ago when we were together. 

 

So I explain to this man that I'm baby brothers sister because we have the same father. 

This guy is still confused or not buying it.

And I said, o.k. you know the two baby brothers right?  Yes he said.

Well don't you think they look a like?    He says:  We've joked for years that they were twins born at different times.  HA HA HA
I say, well I look more like baby brother than the other.   REALLY? he says.

Now he is kinda poking and finally I just say to him, I'm sure my father can explain it to you more in detail if he wishes to, for now I will say we are trying to bring the FUN back into dysfunctional. 

That quieted him about that! 

 

He's going to meet the dog today to see if they like each other.   Hopefully it will all work out. 

 

Since I've come back into my brothers/fathers/step mom's lives only 1 person has ever said, yes, I've heard a lot about you.    It hurts but you can not change the past right?   So my goal is to let the world know these boys have sisters I'm one of them, I'm here to stay and I've got so much to get caught up on like who all of the friends are and what great things have they witnessed my brothers doing.

 

Hubby could tell when I hung up that it bothered me.  And I just told him, it's always going to be like that no matter what.  I'm coming to terms with it, but I'm going to try and see my dad alone this weekend to see if he gets that question a lot as well and how he feels when it's mentioned.  Because I'm so much like my dad and I know it hurts him.  I want him to know it's o.k.  The past is just that, no do overs ya know.  And it's important that we show our love to one another for each new day that we are blessed to be with each other.

 

Life is too short to live in the past of family drama.  There will always be some sort of drama.  What's important is that you know you are loved and show the family the love you have for them.   What the outsiders think is no concern as long as my family loves me.

 

Have a great day!

 

 

 

You know I read quite a few blogs in a week and I find it funny that there are very few that vent the way I do.  Oh well I've always said it's my blog my words, my feeling and etc.  The same goes for your blog. 

 

O.K. so really it's not about me today! 

 

I live in a suburb.  Near us there is a town that is having "issues" with deer.  Supposedly there are more car/deer accidents in this town then anywhere else in our county.  Now the reason being is there is a lot more wooded areas out there and parks and open water (rivers).

 

So the township government of this town decided to fix this car/deer thing by killing the deer.  Seems simple enough right?  WRONG!

Oh my goodness the protests and everything are getting way outta control.  It's crazy. There is now even a video up on a very popular internet video site showing the blood in the snow.

They are calling this c-u-l-l.i-n+g.  The city hired the county sheriffs department to kill the deer with high powered rifles at this park in the middle of the night in a county park.   Mind you this is still in the suburbs.  People are saying its not safe and the blood in the snow is ugly and it looks like a massacre sight and there has to be other ways. 

Here's another thing... All of the meat is being donated to local shelters to feed the hungry. Fully processed already.

 

So my question to you is this....

Do you think that this will help the situation by decreasing the heard size?

Do you think the people should just hush about the blood?

Do you think someone could get hurt?  Or do you think that the sheriff's dept is a trusty source to use high powered rifles with night vision goggles and such.

It's a huge news story right now and the whole county is talking about it and I really don't get it.

 

I think it's o.k. to thin the herd. I don't think you will fix the car/deer problem.  I think people need to remember they live in the suburbs and not in the woods.  They want the nature settings with the mall on the corner.  And the ruckus about the blood in the snow and such.... hmmmmm... it does look gross but really is it going to be there forever? No.   I seriously think that sharp shooters are our best bet in this and they do have points out so that no human walks into the firing area. 

And most importantly someone is getting fed that needs to be fed.  I've noticed a lot of deer in that area in the past several years and they are not afraid of humans or cars which can be dangerous.  Mind you the main interstate through Michigan heading north and south is on the border of this city and I've seen more and more deer by that highway as well.   And another thing that I find Hilarious is that some of the people yelling are living in HUGE homes that were recently built over top of a golf course where these animals once lived.   It's o.k. for you to move em out and let them suffer and find traffic and such but when it comes to a humane way they are complaining. hmmmmm...........

 

So what do you think?   I'm not asking for you to go all Peta on me.tee hee!

Have a day!

 

 

I'm in a much better mood today!  AMEN!!

This weekend was good for me.   The hubby went up north to the cabin to clear the snow off of the roof.  I was home a couple of evenings by myself.  I've missed that.

 

It was odd not having to be home for anyone. No hubby no dog. Nobody wondering what's for supper.  It was nice.  Friday I went to the movie store and rented tons (8) of chick flix and some sn0ca p s and a 12 pack of beer was picked up after.

Stopped at a friends house for a beer and 12 beers later they drove me home! tee hee

Saturday us girls got together to watch a musical. FUN TIMES.

Then Sat night we decided to go out dancing. 

Sunday was a no booze day! WHEW!

I'm trying to help a friend (shocking I know) find a home for his dog.  This guy has been dealt a pretty crummy hand and has been given approx 1 month to live.  He wants his dog to go to a good home and we intend to keep our promise to him that we will make sure of it.  I would just keep it but I'm not ready yet.  Plus it's a great dane and I've not got the room anywhere for him on a permanent basis.  

 

I've had some dark days and I continue to pull myself above it and keep breathing.  It's what I must do.

After all this is MY year right?!?

So I'm hoping this week is full of goodness not only for me but for all of you as well.

Go ahead and smile at a stranger and say hello, it may be the only words spoken to them that day.

 

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First off can I just say that PMS sucks bad!   UGH!  It's making me crazy!

 

Things these past couple of days are just piling up and making me stir crazy!

 

Family Drama sucks bad!

 

Why is it that EVERYONE in my family calls me to find out what my sister is doing?   If they can go to her house and whatever!  WHY?  Does it say on my forehead  SISTER INFORMATION CENTER?!

 

Why is it so difficult for my Mom to understand that she has x amount in "OUR" checking account and she still proceeds to spend more than what's in there?    4 months of NSF fees are seriously taking it's toll on me!

I told her I'm done and she's going to have to get her own account.    then 25 minutes later she calls me and asks ME to call the bank to find out the balance available.  GRRR  no dear here's the number YOU call!

 

My step mom wants to bring stuff over to my sister.  So where does she come... MY HOUSE!   So I call sister and tell her please hurry and come over as I have to run to help a friend and I'll be back.   Sister takes 1 hour to come two streets over and leaves after being there for 1/2 hour!

Why didn't step mom just go over there?   I DON"T KNOW!  What does sister have to run off to do???? NOTHING!

 

While my step mom is there my one brother calls 3 times to have me ask her this and that and he knows the answer is no but he wants me to help talk her into it.  NO!

 

Friend called earlier in the week, can you help me out my drain in the tub wont drain.  I'm not a plumber! But I try and help.  Nope I don't know what's up.I said did you try this???   No, it wont work is the response I get.   OH but he calls last night to tell me after 4 days he tried my suggestion and oh my IT WORKED!

 

Friend calls last night and asks can you come help me move something real quick?   Run over there before Step Mom comes over and what is it to move..... 2 TV's!   One very large screen which us TWO GIRLS handled fine took it down to basement as it's not working and they don't have the $ to fix right now.   Bring up old TV which I asked 12 times before we started to move it.... it's unplugged and ready to go right... YEP!   NOPE!!!   I have to stand there holding this heavy thing almost dropping it while it's being UNPLUGGED FROM THE WALL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Once it's unplugged she tells me to go ahead and set it down.... BY MYSELF! and what happens... it drops onto my Big toe!  OUCH!

Say to her there is no way we two chicks are going to make it up those stairs with this heavy thing.  Her response.... we have to. 

We get a dolly and strap it on and take it up.  Now she doesn't like where it's at.  I told her to call her man friends to move it again.

 

See little things are making me boil.   PMS sucks bad.    Oh and get this... My sis and I used to be on the same schedule for this stuff and she asks me last night as she was walking out the door when was our last one and when is our next one?    I just looked at her and said, well you must be preggo if you don't know by now.

She didn't like that response!

 

So now that I've got that all out of my system, I'm going to have a bright and sunny day right?!

 

 

 

Hello World!

 

Well congrats to our 44th President!  Whether or not you voted for him, he is our new leader and we for the sake of this Beautiful country must support him and believe in him!

 

I made a blog entry a while ago complaining about hubby and his lack of household duties.  Tee hee my how things change!  Tee hee ha ha! 

He's been doing his share for sure! He's learned how to run the vacuum cleaner!  And this is amazing... he learned that the dishes do not fly from the sink to the dishwasher on their own.  He's now giving me poo about it! Tee hee!  He's the laundry king and has even went to the grocery store once for me.  That was not a good thing as he went hungry and I think he bought the three things on his list and added 3 different kinds of cookies and another two boxes of crackers. tee hee!   And of course other things too!   Oh well I'm not complaining!!! 

 

Our road trip was fun wasn't it?!!?!?  I had a riot and I've read some comments and they agreed they too had a good time.

 

Our weather is starting to change! Wahoo!   We have been in a heat wave these past couple of days and it's more than wonderful! The sun is out and it's been getting up to about 20 degrees each day.  Perfect for this time of year!  We do have a ton of snow on the ground but I think it's beautiful and it's way better than seeing brown grass and mud!   We got another 8" of snow this past weekend.  Since it was so nice on Sunday I went and helped some friends and neighbors clear their sidewalks and driveways.  The drifts were sometimes 2 feet plus.  

 

I hung out on Saturday with my lil bro's !   Man I just love them!   I think they have a hint of how much but I don't think they will ever get how much!   I always leave them smiling from ear to ear!  And it lasts for days.

Hubby calls it my brother high. tee hee

 

This weekend my girlfriends and I are getting together for a movie afternoon.  We are watching M0mm@ Mi@.  (it's a popular musical and I don't want every google search coming here. )

We are having mimosa and munchies and I'm sure many laughs!   I'm looking forward to it for sure!

 

Hubby is still so lost without his dog.  It's hard to see him like that!   He refuses to even think or let me talk about getting another dog.   So we'll just keep playing that one by ear.

 

So that's what's going on in my world.  Well there is some family DRAMA... but when isn't there!  HA!!!

 

Take in the sun let out the dark and remember that each day is a blessing waiting to be recognized!

 

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LADIES AND GENTLEMEN THE BUS (VAN) WILL BE PULLING OUT AT APPROXIMATELY 10:00 AM(EST)!!!

 

We've got a full van going.  Any one allergic to cats??  Bring your meds as our Mascot Miss Cat is coming along with Rambling on.   She will be teaching those dogs of Bob's not to poo in shoes!   And the proper etiquette on how to sleep on a bed. 

 

Wait where's Beth Marie??   I saw her here a minute ago she called shot gun didn't she?   I'll take the first shift of driving and then, I think we should get Stephen to take over.  Anybody bring Baileys for the coffee???  

 

Last call for the POTTY!!!   Yes, I started to warm up the van already... it's only -9 here this morning! freaking brrrrrr

But everyone brought shorts right????   Oh Bob is going to be SHOCKED when we pull into that driveway!!  What do you think the crazy neighbors will say about a van full of people pulling up???!!!  Heck they will probably be out there taking photos for their "blogs" tee hee ha ha ha ha

 

YES, we will make a trip to his fire station to see the hot firemen!!! 

Alright then.... LETS GO!!

 

ALL ABOARD!!!!

 

O.K. I can't take it anymore!   We here in Michigan are freezing our dupa's off and Bob from RU Serious in SOCAL is bragging again and again that he's hot... not just a bit hot but 98 degrees HOT! 

So I've got a van and I'm heading out there!  I've arranged for a local store to let us use their big freezer for about 2 hours and I'm taking Bob to said store to purchase some ingredients and his dupa is going in that freezer for 2 hours! Shorts and everything!  HA!

 

Oh don't worry I'll go in there with him to keep him company, however I will be wearing my warm winter gear that is needed here in Michigan.  

No Bob will not be harmed in this lil stunt I will be sure of that however he may be a little chilly! tee hee ha ha

Oh yes, and before we leave SOCAL I will be picking them yummy oranges and bringing them back with me too!

Anybody want to go?   

 

Let me know who's in?!?!? 

 

Reading Patty (up North)'s post of her getting up early to watch the deer in her back yard reminded me of a morning during our New Years break up north.

 

Now mind you we have no clocks or TV up there it is meant to help you unplug from the hustle and bustle of everyday life.

 

Hubby gets outta bed it's still dark outside.  He proceeds to zip zip zip unzip zip zip his bag.  Ummm hello trying to sleep here!  So, he finally leaves the room.  I hear his brother get up it's still dark out.  My brain is telling me go back to sleep. I hear them chatting out there.  They are starting to get louder....2 of them on coffee is not a good thing.  I finally get up.  It's still dark out.  Get some coffee, they have made a new pot for me as they have already drank one by themselves.  Oh no!

So they go to shower and I slam one cup of coffee and start breakfast.  It's still dark outside.

I declare to them that if after breakfast the sun is not up yet then it's back to bed for us all.

Finish cooking, eat, do dishes and it's still dark outside.  Now these two grown men are snickering like lil boys! I look at them and say it best not have just been a midnight snack, cuz now I'm on coffee and I'll bug the tar outta both of ya!

 I sit back down on the couch, trying to see a glimmer of the sun when low and behold the sky changes from black to purple the first sign of daylight.  I look at them both and go alright you two what time did you get me up?   And of course they are laughing and saying oh we don't know there are no clocks.  Al the while looking at each other with their cell phones in hand!

 

Well come to find out they woke at 4 and I was up at 4:30. 

Yep they both got naps, me I was too busy to nap.  I even stayed up later than them that night!  Brats!

It's just fun to think how silly those two brothers of seriousness can be at times and although I was not a happy morning camper I did smile at them!

Take care enjoy your day and look for the humor in those who rarely show it!  They've got it hidden in there somewhere believe me!

Tee hee ha ha

 

Yesterday was some day I tell ya!  It was obvious that the brain waves were on vacation for me.

This is what a few of my Silly Me moments from yesterday. 

 

I'm looking at football squares that are on my kitchen table.  They were sent to hubby from his brother.    I noticed that hubby's name is highlighted as well as the name Soopy. 

Me:  Who's Soopy?

Hubby:  Campbell

Me:  Campbell??? what the heck does that have to do with Soopy?  I don't get it. 

Hubby:  You're kidding right?

Me:  No.  What does one have to do with the other? 

Hubby:  Soup?   Get it Soup?

me:  NO! 

Hubby walks to the pantry grabs a can of soup and says Campbell? 

Me:  Oh.... well they could have spelled it right and then maybe I would have gotten it.  humpf!

 

 

Later in the night I'm at a local bar for a quick beer before bowling.

The waitress walks up to me and says....

Waitress:   What do you think about 8 inches? 

Me:  Choke, cough, (beer coming out my nose), Ummmm don't most woman like 8 inches?

Waitress:  Not me.

Me:  Oh.   So are you gay? I mean that's cool and everything. I just don't understand why you are asking me this if you are gay?

Waitress:  WHAT?   No, I'm not gay why would you think that?  

Me:  You asked me what I thought about 8 inches....and you said you didn't like 8 inches so I was trying to put 2 and 2 together... sorry

Waitress:   I meant snow. 

me:  OH!  sorry!

 

So yes, my brain waves went to Hawaii with my cyber friends I guess!  HA! 

Just thought I'd share a laugh with ya!

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I'm here!

I went north for the New Years Holiday.  We returned home yesterday. 

It was a good trip (other than hubby was super sick). 

He is feeling better now.

 

I've been around to most of ya, I didn't have time to comment today don't be mad at me! I love you guys and know that I count on you for lots of luv and support everyday and you all never ever fail me! and I hope you know you can count on me too!

 

I hope your week is going well!

Take care and when I've got a minute or two I'll write more!

xoxoxo

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